10 Red Flags That Your Elderly Mom Needs Help

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10 Red Flags That Your Elderly Mom Needs Help

It’s estimated that senior citizens will make up 20% of the entire US population by 2030.

Elder care facilities and doctors have been preparing for this momentous change for years.

Everyone can accept the realities of aging, but what’s the difference been mom simply getting older and seeing that mom needs help living her day to day life?

If you’re ready to learn about how to tell if your parent needs help, read on to learn more.

10 Signs That Mom Needs Help

The new generation of senior citizens is very different from those in the past. Baby Boomers have lead very rich and full lives and tend to be much more active than other seniors.

This can be a blessing and curse for adult children of senior citizens. We all want our parents to be happy and to lead active lifestyles, but we also want them to be safe.

Home care can offer a great alternative to nursing homes and still allow your parents to retain their independence, but how can you know when it’s time to find an aide?

If you notice these troubling signs from mom, dad, or uncle Joe, know that it may be time to take action.

Messy Rooms

Did your parents use to diligently clean the house, but now you notice stacks of dirty dishes and bags of trash?

A once clean house that has turned dirty and cluttered could be a sign that your parents are unable to do physically demanding tasks. Simple chores like vacuuming or washing the dishes may be too difficult for them to do.

Extreme Mood Swings

One minute your mom is chipper and talking about how she can’t wait to spend time with her grandkids. Ten minutes later she’s ranting about how the kids are awful brats and starts to cry.

Having an occasional bad mood is one thing, but rapidly changing emotions is quite another. Intense mood swings can be an early sign of Alzheimer’s or dementia.

Bill Mismanagement

Take note when you visit their home you notice a stack of bills on the table. Some are final notices, and you even see a few shut off notices.

When people start to age, certain tasks can become overwhelming or confusing. Something simple like managing a checking account or even sending a check or paying a bill online can become too difficult.

Unpaid bills could also be a sign of memory problems. The bills may not be paid because your parent forgot, or they may assume that they already paid them.

Scorched Pots And Pans

Take a look at the cooking tools your parents use. A little wear and tear is normal, but noticing a lot of charred bottoms could be a sign that your parents need some extra help around the house.

Charred pan bottoms can be a sign that your parents are cooking food and forgetting about it on the stove. That’s a very dangerous fire hazard and poses a serious safety threat to your parents and neighbors.

Lack Of Self Care

The next time you spend time with your parents or elderly loved ones, take note of how they present themselves.

Are their clothes messy or wrinkled? Is their hair neatly groomed? Do they appear bathed, or do you notice an odor?

A lack of self-care could be a sign of depression, but it’s also one of the more common signs of aging.

Something as simple as doing laundry can become difficult if they need to travel to the basement or a different floor of the house. They may be avoiding bathing because they’re worried about falling in the shower or tub.

Poor Driving

If you suspect that your parent may be showing some troubling signs of aging, have them take you on a drive.

Senior citizens and driving can be a hot button issue, but having a senior on the road that can’t properly drive is dangerous for themselves and others.

It’s important to note that it’s possible for parents to get to doctor’s appointments and other places with transportation. Bringing up concerns over driving won’t limit their ability to get around if you can plan ahead.

Can they still adhere to the rules of the road? Do they squint a lot or struggle to see road signs and other cars? Do they drive irrationally, cut people off, or run lights?

Inappropriate Behavior

Your normally sweet father has been using curse words around your children and telling them stories he’d normally tell his adult friends.

Neighbors may mention that they see your parents active at strange hours. Mom may insist on dressing in sweaters and layers even though they’re in sunny and warm California.

Dementia and Alzheimer’s can make people behave strangely. Internal clocks can get out of line, and they may forget about socially appropriate behavior.

Strange Eating Habits And Messy Refrigerator

You parents used to love to cook, but now they order take out for nearly every meal.

Strange eating habits may be a sign that your parent doesn’t trust themselves to cook anymore. They may worry about cutting themselves during preparation, or forgetting about something in the oven or on the stove.

Be sure to take a look inside their fridge. A lot of expired food, improperly stored food, or objects that shouldn’t be refrigerated like common household items can be a sign that your parent needs help.

Missing Medicine Doses

Medication is an important part of fulfilling elderly care needs. If your parent cannot be trusted to take medication on their own, they need additional care.

See if prescriptions are being refilled in a timely fashion. Take a look at their pill separator and see if there are “leftover” pills from previous days. If you’re very concerned, you can contact their doctor.

Unexplained Injuries

Take a good look at your parent the next time you’re all together. Do you notice any bruises or scratches? When you ask them about injuries, are they evasive about how they got them or are they unable to explain where they came from?

Accidents happen, but frequent unexplained injuries can be a sign that your elderly loved one needs help.

Next Steps

If it’s clear that mom needs help, it’s time to take action. Contact us today so we can talk about the best way to get your loved one the care they need to lead rich and happy lives.

While you’re waiting to hear from us, browse some of our helpful blog content so you can learn how to handle the next stage of your loved one’s life.

Are you worried about your parent not being receptive to home help? Read our post on how to handle reluctant loved ones.

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